Isn’t it odd how old we become on the outside while inside we still feel like a twenty-year-old? That is my one observation having spent some days visiting with my dad.
His dementia has progressed at a frightening rate. So much so, that we had no choice but to bring him back to the nursing home where he feels happy. For me, it was a tough decision in one way, because I remember his reluctance to consider going in for respite eighteen months ago and his refusal to move mum to a local nursing home. However, I was happy knowing that, he is safer with many carers around him than just one of us with him twenty-four seven.
It is now two weeks since he moved house, and the weight has lifted from my shoulders, years and layers of stress are falling away and I have gained a little weight. Dad too is experiencing a lightening of years as he takes part in musical afternoons, dancing with anyone who is willing to risk getting their feet shuffled on, or squashed. His bright cheery “Hello,” gains him smiles and conversation. He is taking part in art classes, and on Wednesday of this week, he was a baker hoping to enjoy tea and queen cakes which he had helped to whip up and bake.
Just like Bob he is managing to hold on to his good humour and winning ways.
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I am happy for all of you. Sounds as though a difficult decision has lead to a positive difference all around.
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Thanks Ellen, yes hopefully he continues to like the change.
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Two handsome guys! Great that your Dad can be in a place that brings him stability, security and joy. Great for you, too. As for Bob, he’s always great.
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Thanks Max, even though Mr Bob is sleeping on my feet, he is always great.
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Hmmm, true
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Thank you. I have discovered that how we treat our elderly is changing here in Ireland and often wonder what happens in other countries, once we reach the age of 80.
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In India it was better with joint family etc. But now it’s getting worse. In some cases, cruel
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One of dad’s carers is a gentleman with a big heart, who has taught me a lot about taking care of others, and it saddens me to hear that our selfish ways are spreading to other countries. I hope life turns around and is kinder in future.
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I hope so too Maria. Thank you
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